Fargo23 (new member)

[fargo23]

Hi,

I'm a 28 year old male and I'm extremely lazy. I don't know if that is a symptom of depression, but I hate doing anything that is work related. I don’t know if that makes me a coward, but I just run away from responsibility. I find comfort in lying in bed, using the internet or watching TV. I don’t think about suicide, instead I ignore my reality by day dreaming all the time. I don’t have any friends, so I don’t have anyone to talk with. I’ve joined this site hoping to find an escape from this torture I am living in.

[Frank]

Hi fargo,
I'm new here too & often suffer from procrastination & worse, avoidance. I think it's a coping strategy (or non-strategy?) that we all have in our arsenal, but in some cases it can predominate.
It's a really tough one to get a hold of since avoidance can be like a mental loop but you have to find a way to interrupt that loop. Do some research on net. I think cognitive/behavioural approach to this is a good one ( especially changing behaviour ).

[fargo23]

I'm going on vacation later this month.... I'm hoping or have led myself to believe that when I come back I'm going to start working hard... I don't know. Thanks for the reply Frank... I will try to google what ever the hell I have on line and hope I can find a name for it. As for changing my behaviour, well I've always tried to do that.... but i think the best way I should handle this is by facing my issue head on.

[fargo23]

I lost $380 todays... I feel like shit...

[Kever]

Hey fargo everyone likes to hop on the computer or play a game.. you can escape anything?
How are you lazy? Are you lazy at home? Or at work? At work do you consider yourself to be a hard worker? At home do you lazy around becaue your tired from work? Do you not clean cause your more worried about your game?

I don't tidy up much because i know were things are, and if i clean then they won't be there after i clean. I personaly would rather me messy and know where stuff is. Everyone has a reason why.. try to tihnk of yours

try to look at what things make you get active

[fargo23]

I am embarrassed to say what my living situation is. I hate being honest with people. Once you tell people them what kind of problem you have it’s either, “you should be ashamed of yourself” followed by, “don’t worry you’ll get better.” I hate that… they don’t know, and don’t listen. I’m always looking for something to change my life… something cathartic. Like if I go out for a walk, I believe that something will change my perspective on life. But when I’m done… nothing changes, everything either stays the same, or gets worse. I’m running away from that. I put something important on for another time… believing that the person I will become at that time will do it (and not the person I am now). Kever I choose to be lazy because it’s the easiest way to escape any real life problems. This weekend I lost my bankbook, and it contained $300 I wanted to deposit in it. I looked around my house for it, but couldn’t find it. I wanted to cry…. But I just remedied the situation by watching tv, and telling myself that I won’t let that happen to me again. I don’t think it’s normal to pretend that losing that much money is normal. I don’t work, and I needed that money to pay for tuition. I’m taking OSAP, so that’s where the money came from. Laziness is really my way of ignoring my reality. I don’t have any friends, let alone a girlfriend. I wish I could have one, so that I could open myself to them. But finding a friend is very difficult for me. They are either in a better place then me, and can’t relate to my problems. Or I have no connection with them… I hate having to be friends with someone just because I am lonely.

[Kever]

Hey man when you wake up in the morning how do you feel? awake? tired? how about the afternoon and evening?

do you feel refreshed in the morning?

Im Kever there too.. so add me
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[Ambe]

Hi Fargo, Frank and Kever. I suffer from depression and I know that one of the symptoms is lack of motivation. I know this all too well as I have been depressed since before I was a teen. I think that part of my problem is that when I get really down, I let things go and then when I feel better things are so overwhelming so I do things that make me feel good.

I have a new stratagey. I cleaned my table a few months ago. It is close to the entrance so when we come in everything is set upon it. Now we have a rule that everything must be off it before we go to bed. Since both my husband I are shift worker and we usually have different shifts, we can check up on each other. We have a good relationship, so we shook hands on this and so far it's been working. Now when we come in the house there isn't a disaster to look at. Txks for reading!

Ambe

[fargo23]

I'm back on this website again because I'm at the bottom again. I'm living at home with no job, school, friends and I'm turning 30 soon. To deal with my depression and failures I practice avoidance of my reality by spending time on line, watching tv, buying stuff I don't need, eating junk food, and watching porn online.

I don't know... it would be nice to start a new friendship... maybe with someone as screwed up as I am.

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