HELP - Losing son to depression

[Sasha]

My son, who is 19, has battled depression for a while. He's currently on celexa but refuses to see a therapist. He goes for days that he doesn't come out of the basement. He'll go to sleep at 5:00 p.m., wake up at 11:00 p.m, play games until 5:00 a.m. and then sleep all day again. He dropped out of school with one credit left to graduate. We asked him if he wanted to take an on-line course so he could get his diploma and he agreed. This was 4 months ago and he finished one lesson in that time. My husband got him a job where he works but my son only wants to work 3 days a week. No more, no less. He hates the job saying its boring but he's been given many doors to go through for advancement but won't take them. When he comes home from work he goes directly down to the basement and sleeps until 11:00 p.m. We've explained that if wants to get somewhere in life he needs to finish that one course, but he can't bring himself to do it. He has no idea what he wants to do in life and has no desire to try and find out.

Some weeks he's fine. He'll work on his truck and hang out with friends but then the next week he's back in the basement. He won't talk to us, says things are fine. But there is no logic in the things he says. He wants to buy a new truck, move out, go on a trip yet he doesn't want to work, finish his schooling or go to college. Baffles the mind! Can someone help me make some sense of this. I've lost it a few times with him because it's all so frustrating. All he does is sleep and play video games. I'd like him to go talk to someone but he feels he doesn't need to. How do I get him there?

[Ambe]

Hi Sasha! I’m Ambe and I’m new to this forum as well. Watching a family member suffer with mental illness is painful especially when he won’t get help. I know all too well this feeling because my son, 25 has depression and my daughter, 28, has schizophrenia plus I have depression. I didn’t have very many problems getting my son to see someone, but my daughter was a whole different story. She was diagnosed in her late teens. I tried talking to her until I was blue in the face. I tried bribery and of course, coercion. I had family, friends and the local priest talk to her. She finally had to be admitted into the hospital against her consent (I hope it doesn't get that far for your son). My daughter was grateful that I didn't give up on her even though there was some very tough love situations.

Maybe you could suggest this forum or one for teens with depression. I’m just new to forums and also the computer world, but I'm not sure it's wise for him to be on the same forum as you. You need the support as well!

Remember you’re not alone and know that you’re a good mom! Good luck with your son!

Ambe

[suzan]

Hello, I am new to this forum, I am sorry that your son is going through depression. I have myself suffered from Anxiety and depression for almost 10 years and I have created a website of my ordeal, maybe it will help. After all with anxiety there is alot of depression and my site will hopefully have some answers for you. I have research and tried to understand my mental illness and that is what I wrote about.

[kristy85]

Have you tried any antidepressant treatment??
Even though you take medications, you have to be positive and confident that you can face any type of situations.

[Rose]

Hi Sasha, I am new to this forum, in fact joined today! I am sorry to hear about your son and what he is going through! Just a recommendation. If he says he wants to buy a truck and go .... just let him. That way, I think, he will realize that buying a truck or for that matter, being on your own will not be easy! That should be a reason for him to get help!

Is there a possibility of talking to the GP, because sometimes, this is what I have found for myself, the meds tend to get used to you and you need to change it! Perhaps, the fact that he has been depressed, lately could also be that!

[Moloch]

Sasha,
I'm a 21 year old guy who also suffers from clinical depression. For the first 2.5 years after high school I did nothing but play games, tv, and piano. Last summer, I finally went to a doctor because I was tired of suffering. The reason you find him illogical is the depression speaking, not him. Depression can take several years at least to go away, and that is with treatment. I have no job either, and feel quite hopeless, even though I see a therapist, psychologist, and am on meds. So try not to get too frustrated, as it can be a long process. Perhaps you should let him do what he wants for now, hopefully he will realize how serious this is.

[judthryn]

hi sasha!!
If he goes out and hang out with friends and have any entertainment like playing games or so.. let him do that, this will make him to divert his mind from his bored state.

[bobkerry]

i m sorry for your son but i must suggest you to try to be a best friend with your son because if you will spend some time with him then i am sure he will feel comfotable and relaxed too.so it is very much important to spend some time with your kids in order to make their life happy and stress free

[ironmike]

Damn those video games. Billion dollar industry sucking the life out of the minds of these kids.

I think those games are a big part of his problem. He's hooked on gaming. A man can waste a lifetime sitting in front of a computer monitor. Peering into the bright lights.

It's not difficult to blow 8 hours on a game. And it feels like only half that time. And then you go outside and your brain is in a fog. And you can't think straight. And you have trouble socializing because all you can think about is the next game, the next upgrade, the next patch, the next achievement, the next level, the best strategy, the...

It's CrAzY!!!

But he'll snap out of it, eventually.

Just be thankful he's not drinking, shootin' heroin, or smoking crack.

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[Franky Keats]

Hi Sasha! Is your son doing any good now? It really is so tough to get through with things at his point of time in life- studies, career, friends and what not!

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I think your son is in very much depressed he needs to refresh his life.
So i have a suggestion which might be help you to come out from depression.

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. Try the session of EFT sure your son get a help.

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